Mindset Therapy

Don't share these 6 secrets with anyone

1. Financial Situation:

You shouldn't tell anyone:

• Your income

• How much property you own

• How much debt you have

• Your past bankruptcies

- You should remain more mysterious about these matters

2. Your Dreams and Goals:

People you tell this to can ridicule & belittle you or dismiss your dreams:

• They think your dreams are either basic & easy to achieve or impossible

Saying these things will lower your morale and motivation.

Many won't believe in your vision - until you've made it!

3. Old Relationships:

- People's lives are shaped by relationships.

• Don't tell anyone which mistakes you've made in your past relationships or how flirtatious you were...

• What you say may reach the ears of your new partner

- Avoid this if you don't want them to stigmatize you before they even meet you.

4. Your Weaknesses:

Guard your vulnerabilities, even with your closest friends, whenever possible

• Revealing weaknesses provides ammunition for others to exploit.

• Protect yourself from potential manipulation.

5. Past Lies and Mistakes:

- Don't tell people about the lies, failures & mistakes you've made.

• Sharing these with others will cause great harm to your relationships. Resist the urge to share.

• Those you confide in will perceive you as untrustworthy.

Being transparent about past errors will lead to distrust or misunderstandings, impacting how others perceive you. Maintain integrity to preserve trust.

6. Family Problems:

You should keep your family problems to yourself.

• The people who know can pass them on to other people.

• Talking negatively about your family displays disloyalty & a lack of familial unity, making your family vulnerable & open for attack.

Sharing such matters risks spreading gossip & unwanted attention. Maintain privacy to safeguard the family. We don't want everyone to know about our family problems now, do we?

What 3 habits can transform my life completely?

1. Waking up at 4 am

Firstly, waking up this early can be the most difficult thing in the world. I mean early morning is when we are in our deepest sleep. The world is quiet, the air is fresher, the atmosphere is cold. If its too cold, your body temperature under the blanket must have produced the coziest temperature for you to sleep.

Before I started waking up at 4 am, I tried 7 am, then 6 am, then 5 am, and then 4 am. Waking up at 7 am and 6 am is no different. The sun is already up (in my country) by 6 am. I didn’t feel I was up early. Then I tried 5 am. I noticed that for me to have the highest motivation, energy and drive, I had to be at my computer by 5 am. I then tried 4 am. Was the most difficult thing on the first day but by the third day, waking up at 4 am was the thing I was looking forward the most when I slept the day before. Ok ok so this is how I do it.

Firstly, I go to sleep the night before, wanting to wake up the next day at 4 am. I also started deleting the word ‘alarm’ from my dictionary and replaced with the word ‘opportunity’. This trick works by the way. When my opportunity clock goes off at 4 am, I decide the longest I can be on bed is 5 seconds. I count to five and get up on my feet. Yes you have to stand on your feet. I then drink some water, go to the bathroom and brush my teeth. There is something magical about the toothpaste that makes me wake up. I then go out to my terrace and meditate there for 10 to 20 minutes. This is my favorite part of the morning. The world is quiet, the air is fresh, in a tropical hot country, the outside temperature at this time is just comfortable. You can do this on your balcony or even in your apartment. I would advise you to step out of your house or building and breath some fresh air at this time. Just 5 minutes will do. I then do the ‘Seven Minute Workout’ (the scientific one). For 7 minutes this is quite effective. Then hit the bathroom and watch a TED Talk while I’m on throne. I take a shower, grab a coffee and start my work at 5 am or before.

When you are up this early you know you are up for a reason and it motivates the hell out of you. You know you are up before any one else because your tasks are so important. It drives you to focus and work the most productive hours of the day.

By the way, I try to sleep latest by 10pm. If I’m unable to get enough sleep, I just take a 30 minute power nap the next day.

2. Start getting used to rejection

One thing that holds us all back is the fear of rejection. In fact, fear of rejection is one thing that slows the progress of advancement - especially in social skills. Have you ever met a person who is average looking but still manages to get the hottest chicks? Have you ever saw a sales guy that is so confident in his pitch he nearly makes every deal happens? These guys don’t fear rejection. I used to be a shy person and one that greatly feared rejection. I started reading about confidence and self esteem and all and found that facing rejection is the best way boost confidence. I started asking for odd favors, started talking to random people, etc. I would ask a person in a queue to let me pass in front, just to be rejected. Believe me if you have a reason, most of the times the people let you go. Its really that easy. And do you feel that some people are too ‘proud’ to talk to you or smile at you? A lot of the times these people are actually just shy. Decide that you will get rejected at least once per day. Make this a game with a friend, its even more fun. Test who gets rejected the most. Believe me this will be your biggest confidence booster.

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