#SelfHelp 🤍
How to Stop Taking Things Personally 🌟
Ever wondered why some people seem unaffected by criticism while others get deeply hurt?
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What does it mean to take things personally?When we take things personally, we internalize negative comments or actions, feeling like they attack our identity. For example, if someone says "It's not you, it's me" during a breakup, we might think, "What did I do wrong?" Instead of seeing the real issue, we blame ourselves.
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Why do narcissists take everything personally?Narcissists can't separate their actions from their identity. If you criticize a narcissist for being drunk, they don't see the problem as their drinking but as a personal attack. They play the victim and never change their behavior.
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How can we stop taking things personally?1.
See through others' eyes: Practice empathy. Try to understand what specific behavior or words might be bothering the other person.
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Separate identity from behavior: If you fail an interview, don't think, "I'm a failure." Instead, consider, "I need to improve my skills."
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What's the actionable step?Whenever you feel attacked, ask yourself:
- What behavior is being criticized?
- How can I improve that specific action?
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Examples to practice-
Feedback on work: If your boss says your report needs improvement, focus on the report, not on your abilities as a person.
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Relationship issues: If someone says you're not attentive, think about specific ways to show more attention, rather than feeling inadequate.
By focusing on behaviors and not internalizing criticism, you can improve relationships and self-esteem. It’s all about shifting your perspective and taking constructive action.
Remember, the key is to understand that criticism is often about specific actions, not about you as a person. Practice empathy, focus on behaviors, and take actionable steps to improve.
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@NoFapT 🦋
