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🏮It requires a very strong resolve:

🔸NOT to open browser or other apps when lust/ addiction urges tempt you. A few seconds of temptation can be resisted. If not, we only reinforce strength of old habits which would make deaddiction much more difficult. Practicing mindfulness & reasoning with our mind instead.
🔸NOT to continue dwelling upon lustful thoughts. Focusing on thoughts of an opposite & positive nature to counter them instead.
🔶NOT to continue deriving pleasure from a lustful dream while in sleep, breaking the chain & waking up.
🔸NOT to use heavily hypersexualised apps which exist as sweet seeming disguise of 'must-have apps' such as Instagram. No mental excuses, your life quality wouldn't be deteriorated without these.
🔸NOT to engage in vulgar & demeaning jokes, discussions or content in any way when other people make/talk about them, even if it means losing associations with those people.
🔸NOT to look at women with a lustful intention but rather retrain ourself mentally not to do so.
🔸NOT to listen to vulgar songs & shun mainstream entertainment to allow yourself regain Mental Purity.
🔸NOT to even entertain lustful thoughts when alone, definitely not resorting to MO then & thus building strong integrity.

Proactive Mental Resistance isn't easy but then easy isn't the path of warriors. We'd walk on razor sharp edges to fine tune our thoughts to absolute purity like they are supposed to be!
It's definitely not easy but definitely NOT impossible either!
We hope everybody could succeed in it during the youth but only a few succeed because everybody doesn't fully commit - you can be amongst those 'few' but only if you choose to.

All of it is as simple and as impossible as you choose to make it!

Wreck your life further or build it back 💪🏼

MEANS OF ATTAINING PERFECT CONTINENCE

A bachelor once said to Sir M. Visvesvarayya,
ex-Dewan of the Mysore State, a great genius and a life-long celibate,
"Sir, I am a bachelor from choice but lately have shown some signs of wavering. How to keep up my celibacy?"
"Keep your love in cold-storage for a few more years" was the instant answer of the knight.

Once I asked a great saint: What is continence?
I expected that his reply would consist of some moral rules and regulations. But, to my surprise, he said : Keep your mind as simple, innocent, pure and unattached as that of a child; and that is continence.

And the same great soul was again asked by me the question: how to conquer lust, to which he replied : Continence means absence of lust. You cannot conquer lust, for it is the finest form of energy.Energy cannot be destroyed; this is proved by science.
You have got to forget lust; you have to re-direct,
transcend and transform it. Love love, love culture,love knowledge. This is the best way to forget lust.

One of the best methods of controlling lust and observing continence is the love of knowledge.

- Swami Jagadiswarnanda

To succeed at anything requires intense training & training demands all of you.
An able body
An able mind
Will power
Hardwork
Focus
Energetic body
Rest of the things get added over time!

The elite in any field don't lose time & energy to fapping, then why do you?
This is where we raise warriors amongst our brothers who have been commiting a fapping suicide. We help ourselves & our brethren!
Together, we will win 🏆

I wanted to add another pointer which I personally practice regarding this. It should be helpful. A spiritual view.

The seat of our consciousness is at 6th chakra/tisra til/shiv netra/third eye/single eye. It is situated behind our two eyes, in the centre. During the wakeful state, this is the headquarters of our soul & mind or what we can refer to as our consciousness. From this point, the currents of our soul have descended & pervaded the entire body. So, this is also the thinking centre at where we think when we close our eyes. During death or meditation, our consciousness automatically recollects here to embark on the journey further in either case.

Now in our limited understanding¹ at the physical level, what really differentiates our consciousness (which could be an admixture of soul & mind in the present state) from anybody else's, lies originally there behind the third eye. Rest of the body underneath is basically for the sustenance of life & to carry out various activities in the world. The body is largely based on genetics & other factors, giving attention to which would make a human no better than animals for he has the best power of discernment amongst all visible life which he should make good use of.
Hence, simply speaking, our interaction & sight should be eye-to-eye or face-to-face.

This insight would certainly & instantly make anybody realise that what makes anybody human isn't their body alone but rather the consciousness temporarily housed in that body. It would therefore become pointless to see anybody from neck/shoulder down unless body language is to be read for self-defence.

It requires effort & practice in correcting our view. That's how the cultivation of new & positive thoughts naturally counters & some day replaces old & negative thought-patterns.

Footnote:
¹ The holistic spiritual understanding would imply that all consciousness, when purified & detached from individual mind would be God consciousness but it would only seem to be a theory at our level for almost everybody

🚦Some Practical Pointers by Swami Sivananda to Stop That Lustful Look:

1. Recognise the atma/soul in her (is of the same essence as you & the Lord). Bring the image of Lord into your Mind & do Japa.

2. If she is old, treat her as your mother; if she is young, as your sister; and if very young, as your child.

3. Whenever the mind runs towards attractive women with lustful thoughts, have a definite clear-cut photo in the mind of the flesh, bone, urine, faecal matter & perspiration of which women are composed. This will induce disgust & Vairagya in the mind. You will never again commit the sin of unchaste look at a woman. It takes some time, no doubt. Ladies also can practice the foregoing method & keep a mental picture of men in just the same Swami Sivananda says that even sometimes for a liberated sage, his eyes might move towards the objects through the force of habit but since he has no sex idea, he can withdraw them completely.

❓Where to look❓
👉🏼 When you walk on the road, do not look hither and thither like a monkey. Look at the tip of your right big toe/nose/ground & walk gently with a Gambhir (serious) attitude.

❓Upon failure❓
👉🏼 If you are unable to do this & find your looks straying up to a woman with lustful purpose, raise in your mind the image of a corpse or a skeleton or wrinkled, diseased old woman & keep it till you are filled with disgust. This will enable you to succeed finally in subduing passion.

❗ Everything screams for your attention
👁️👁️ Most of the input comes through the eyes
❗Remember : Mental ReTraining will take time but only if you put in consistent efforts. Again & again generate the currents of dispassion & discrimination.

You may fail a hundred times but continue this practice!
Stick to your practice tenaciously.
You are bound to succeed eventually.

🗒️ Desire – The Enemy Within

❓Why does man compromise with his ideals, engage in actions which are below the dignity of a human being or perform deeds that have a negative impact on his mind, thereby creating more sorrow for himself❓ Why does it happen❓

In the Bhagavad Gita, Arjuna asks Sri Krishna, ‘Why does man commit sin even though he does not want to (anichchena)? In spite of himself, he does so. What is that force, factor, or entity that pushes him, forcibly as it were, into wrong doing?
Bhagavan responds with a direct answer. ‘kaam eshe’.
It is kaam – desire, lust, passion. It is irresistible, uncontrolled and uncontrollable desire. Desire is the cause and it is desire, itself, that takes the form of anger or rage, if it is obstructed.

👉🏼Nature of Desire
The nature of desire is such that the moment it arises, it immediately causes agitation and restlessness. We may be busy reading, writing or listening to something and suddenly a thought comes, ‘I think I need a coffee break now’. Immediately, the mind is disturbed, agitated, and restless. If the desire for coffee is obstructed, and there is someone preventing its fulfilment, the desire turns into anger.
How does desire arise? It rises from rajoguna. The quality of rajoguna is agitation. The mind becomes more and more restless.

Read more about how anger and greed are also linked with desire. It is interesting!
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🪄 Thoughts - Meditation - Energy Body 💫

Have you ever felt pain in the body, especially in your limbs after an ejaculation? That's your etheric body with less of the energy. You can't refill this energy only through a good diet, meditation is the quickest way in addition to sleep and diet.
You would be energetic & experience no such pain all day if you're on abstinence for long & recovered from this addiction. If you're an addict, you might well remember how fresh it used to feel mentally & also how energetic it felt physically when you were a child.
A violent act of energy loss does not only affect your physical body but also your higher bodies. Besides a balanced diet & sleep, meditation & thought management acts as great catalysts in your recovery process. This article helps understanding the need for both of these.
You need to understand the impact of the 'Thought Power'. Thought management must be practiced for your recovery or growth. This book is highly recommended to learn how to proactively counter various kinds of negative thoughts. If you don't practice this, polluted & negative thoughts would keep cementing their place further in your mind. Thus, this practice acts both as a purifier & a shield.

An introductory video for meditation has been shared here. Everybody can try meditation at home starting from a few minutes everyday, adding increments of minutes every few days. Later you may practice under a spiritual master. If you fail to stick to this, at least practice mindfulness & affirmations!!

If there's some best cure for your recovery, it's meditation + thought management. Additionally, exert yourself physically & mentally everyday in the day to earn a good night's sleep. Learn to keep your mind occupied at all times with positive thoughts. It might seem difficult in the beginning but you'll realise later how important they were in transforming your life.

Happy Men's Day Brothers.
Wishing everyone to be Stronger version of themselves and take responsibility.🔥😎

The moment you stop underestimating your enemy and realize that what it really desires is the total destruction of your spirit, your mind and your body - is the moment you will start taking your recovery seriously.

One of you has to die, who will it be?
Will you overcome your weakness, or let it destroy you from the inside?

- @UrielCBa

❄️ Peer pressure & social media creates yet another fear of missing out(FOMO) amongst the youth -> Relationship

Many are inclined towards NoFap more so to become a 'woman magnet'. This is one of the drawbacks of how NoFap movement of the west is promoted too.
Focus should've been on physical growth, mental growth and on building virtues & self-worth. You haven't even established an independent identity & financial freedom yet & you seek adventure in this territory already? Your personal growth would be restricted or even lost in many areas of life if something untoward happened which in many cases does. You risk losing your mental balance, wrecking your academics & ruining your life in lamentation later here & there and becoming a burden on your family.
How 'love & relationship' are portrayed in the media & internet seems fascinating to your impressionable mind but is usually unethical, immoral or inappropriate for your age. This is only to tantalise your senses - most movies, TV series, shows & songs of love that you sing are to blame for this.
All your wise elders would agree to this.

The desperation to find a partner shouldn't mean that you readily agree to the very first proposal or advance you receive from any woman. It is wiser to prevent oneself from misery after careful contemplation & introspection than to go through the misery itself & learn from subjective experience.

If the animalistic tendency, the lust in you becomes the prime factor which is driving you to seek the animalistic tendency in a woman, you wouldn't create a firm foundation for a relationship. This is what you will see in the society today & almost all relationships. Even in matrimonial alliances, many are compelled to stay in the marriage due to other compulsions.
Recommended Reading

You aren't asked to become a brahmachari but at least become a responsible person who could later lead an ideal life of householder at an appropriate age.
Let's stand strongly onto our virtues & try our best to become an ideal young man, the definition of which has best been given by Swami Vivekananda! 👈🏼 A MUST Read!

No matter how much you've erred or messed your life up, you can still turn it around. It's no other than Swami Vivekananda again who inspires us & tells us how to do it:

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life; dream of it; think of it; live on that idea. Let the brain, the body, muscles, nerves, every part of your body be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success and this is the way great giants are produced. Never mind failures; they are quite natural, they are the beauty of life. What would life be without them? It would not be worth living if it were not for struggles. Where would be the poetry of life?

We have wept long enough. No more weeping, but stand on your feet and be men. It is a man-making religion that we want. It is man-making theories that we want. It is man-making education all round that we want. And here is the test of truth – anything that makes you weak physically, intellectually, and spiritually, reject as poison; there is no life in it, it cannot be true. Truth is strengthening. Truth is purity, truth is all knowledge.
What makes you weep, my friend? In you is all power. Summon up your all-powerful nature. O mighty one, and this whole universe will lie at your feet. It is the self alone that predominates and not matter.

Quotes from the book 👈🏼Recommended Reading for all students!