Sex control at the mental level - Swami Yatiswarananda (Part - 2)
Practically speaking, all our troubles are more mental than physical & until there are mental troubles there can never be any physical ones.
So the defect lies in us more than in others.
📝✅If we are not able to create the higher mood as soon as the trouble arises, we should first draw ourselves away from the person or object of temptation and then try to create that mood. There should be a conscious, deliberate cutting off in all such cases. Those who are always in a higher mood will experience less temptations. It is only when a man forgets God or his higher Self & dwells on the worldly plane, that temptations come upon him frequently. Always keep a good stock of holy imaginations & ideas, so that you can use them as weapons the moment any undesirable thought or feeling arises and tries to find some expression on the mental or physical plane. Suppose a person attracts you, raise at once a very intense counter-picture. Imagine that the person is dragging you down and think at the same time strongly of your ishta/chosen ideal, setting the picture of your ishta against that of the other person. Thus it becomes easier to evade the subtle charm of the object of temptation & to change the thought & feeling regarding it. But one should love one's chosen ideal intensely. Those who love God intensely are not easily affected by the charms of physical beauty & sex.
📝✅Another effective way is to merge all forms that rise in you into the light of your Self which is always shining in you and which forms your real nature.
Direct the searchlight of the Atman into all these shadowy areas. All the hideous images that lie crouching there will vanish in the brilliance of the Self. Bring all submerged forms into the focus of higher consciousness, & you will see that they vanish at once. Consciousness has such a tremendous power. But few people care to do this.
You see, the whole trouble is this. Our images have acquired reality. We forget that images are only images. Each image becomes, as it were, a real person and haunts us
📝✅We should learn to deflate these images and deprive them of life. In the beginning this may be difficult. Then we have to bring in another good image in order to counteract the bad ones.
📝✅When you feel drawn towards a person, if you can regard him/her as a mere shadow, as something unsubstantial, then the charm & influence he/she has on you will disappear & the fight would become a very easy one. But generally the attraction is such, & our consciousness so confused and full of wrong notions, that we do not even want to do this in most cases!
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Practically speaking, all our troubles are more mental than physical & until there are mental troubles there can never be any physical ones.
Unless something in us responds to the outer stimulus, whatever it may be, there can be no object of temptation
So the defect lies in us more than in others.
📝✅If we are not able to create the higher mood as soon as the trouble arises, we should first draw ourselves away from the person or object of temptation and then try to create that mood. There should be a conscious, deliberate cutting off in all such cases. Those who are always in a higher mood will experience less temptations. It is only when a man forgets God or his higher Self & dwells on the worldly plane, that temptations come upon him frequently. Always keep a good stock of holy imaginations & ideas, so that you can use them as weapons the moment any undesirable thought or feeling arises and tries to find some expression on the mental or physical plane. Suppose a person attracts you, raise at once a very intense counter-picture. Imagine that the person is dragging you down and think at the same time strongly of your ishta/chosen ideal, setting the picture of your ishta against that of the other person. Thus it becomes easier to evade the subtle charm of the object of temptation & to change the thought & feeling regarding it. But one should love one's chosen ideal intensely. Those who love God intensely are not easily affected by the charms of physical beauty & sex.
📝✅Another effective way is to merge all forms that rise in you into the light of your Self which is always shining in you and which forms your real nature.
Temptations can take place only in the dark regions of the unconscious mind.
Direct the searchlight of the Atman into all these shadowy areas. All the hideous images that lie crouching there will vanish in the brilliance of the Self. Bring all submerged forms into the focus of higher consciousness, & you will see that they vanish at once. Consciousness has such a tremendous power. But few people care to do this.
You see, the whole trouble is this. Our images have acquired reality. We forget that images are only images. Each image becomes, as it were, a real person and haunts us
📝✅We should learn to deflate these images and deprive them of life. In the beginning this may be difficult. Then we have to bring in another good image in order to counteract the bad ones.
But the technique of deflating the images must be learned by all one day or other.
📝✅When you feel drawn towards a person, if you can regard him/her as a mere shadow, as something unsubstantial, then the charm & influence he/she has on you will disappear & the fight would become a very easy one. But generally the attraction is such, & our consciousness so confused and full of wrong notions, that we do not even want to do this in most cases!
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